![]() ĭon’t Equate Your Child’s Achievements With Parental Success Worrying about what other parents think of you is what turns you into an Asshole Parent (a theme you will find throughout this piece). Other parents judge you because of your child. And more importantly, neither are you as their parent. Your child isn’t a defect, a deviant, or a psychopath because they lie. As long as you’re willing to accept that getting it wrong is a part of parenting. So in an effort to be a responsible and reasonable parent, you do all you can to gather all the facts and perspectives on any situation to come to a verdict. You don’t want to demoralize your child by distrusting everything they say (and give them no choice but to lie because you won’t believe them whether they do or not), nor be so ignorant and foolish as to believe they’d never lie to you. One of the more difficult tasks you’ll have as a parent is to discern when your child is lying and when they’re telling the truth. Will lying get them out of having to eat lima beans? Will lying about how sick they feel, by putting the thermometer under a lamp to make their temperature 106º, excuse them from going to school? Will lying absolve them from getting in trouble for the stuffed animal that clogged the toilet and flooded the bathroom? As they get older, the lies become more elaborate, more dramatic, and have greater consequences. Perhaps it is a way of leaving this life behind.ĭear Nurse: Thank you for sharing your wisdom.Don’t Instinctively Believe Your Child Is Rightįrom the moment your child can crawl, they will begin to explore the magical world of lies. It is not personal and is not meant to hurt or reject others. It is how I knew that they accepted their path. I’d like to share 40 years of nursing with your readers.Įvery single patient that I cared for - at the end - appeared to withdraw. Either make your own views known, or - if you are so afraid of these people that you would let them silence you - disconnect from them on Facebook, while you decide whether to disconnect from them in real life.ĭear Amy: “Brokenhearted Old Friend” was hurt because her friend withdrew from contact toward the end of the friend’s life. ![]() ![]() The same thinking applies to social media. Here’s another quote from that same document: “When bad men combine, the good must associate else they will fall, one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle.” Let me fall back on the oft-quoted statement written by Edmund Burke: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” My overall point is that you are so conflict-avoidant that your friends might not even realize that you disagree with them and are offended by their views. How can we maintain a friendship with these people? Should we?Īfter all these years, it would be a shame to just walk away, but it almost seems that these people are part of the larger problem in this country.ĭear Upset: Political alignment (“pro-this” or “anti-that”) is one thing.īut if your friends are white supremacists - or make statements where they align with white supremacy (which is not a political point of view but a statement of values) - then why are you the ones leaving the room? We do not discuss politics with each other, but lately we have seen posts or “likes” on Facebook from them that are anti-Biden and supportive of the past president and the insurrection. We are anti-Trump and our friends are pro-Trump. We were appalled by the insurrection at the Capitol. When this happens, we get up and leave the room without saying anything, in order to avoid an argument. In the past few years, we have heard them make comments that align them with white supremacists. Check out the free “I am Sober” app.Īlso, talk about it! Ask your friends for their insight regarding your changing behavior.ĭear Amy: We have been friends with a couple for many years, but lately we are having trouble relating to them. Their help line is (800) 662-4357.Īn app on your phone could also help you to stay on track throughout the day. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Association () includes a support group locator. You can read about addiction and connect with others in support meetings. With meditation, you are trying to get over the hump, and also trying to work on your underlying triggers. Withdrawal from habitual use requires building up new habits to replace the old ones. Your instincts for how to treat your current challenges are obviously great. If you have been using pot to successfully modulate your mood swings, it is logical that these underlying challenges have resurfaced, after being suppressed for a decade. Dear Stoner: You would benefit from connecting with an addiction specialist, and also with other people who have chosen sobriety.
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